Is Suffering in life a blessing in disguise?

[DISCLAIMER]: Before you start reading this down. Try to prepare a broad mindset which involves your thoughts on events or incidents that you have questioned. It can be anything that caused you some time of your life or if you felt like it’s unreal or unexpected. If all that events run through your mind while reading this, you can relate this article to a level where you find it more amusing and relatable. If that can be done, then you may have productive outcome of thoughts by reading this.

Is Suffering in life a blessing in disguise?
I think someone had said this dialogue before. Yeah i know some people dont get it. Hope this article gets someone near there. Thats my goal in this.
In the beginning of this so called journey of life, This suffering thing was a interrogation to myself with so many 'why?' questions for a long time. Then i did some complaining, crying, torturing (not hardcore) myself and with some stupid questions. I came to a point where i found out that, some of the good traits i have now were formed while i was suffering(still suffering). Thats sad right?Yeah. But some of them were formed because of my friends and family orientation. Suffering will come again and again until you have what you need to overcome it.

“A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.”
-Oliver Wendell Holmes

It’s not about just suffering or going through bad times. Its about experiencing and learning things from it. This could be applied in different situations and also when dealing with people and relationships.
Most people have problems, It’s hard to admit it and having problems is not "the worst thing" that can happen to an individual, it is normal and usual but most of them dont react to it the same way. So that’s where i think the differences arrive between people. The happy ones, the sad ones, the numb ones, the chill ones etc.

Example: When the problem is on us as a whole we could solve it as a whole. Identifying this is a step in solving it. But When the problem is mine and when i put it on the other or when its your problem and when you put it on others. Theres no way to solving this problem because it will not be considered a problem of your own in your mind as it is being blamed on the other and we will not try ourselves to solve that problem because our mind or intent will remove the problem from our list of problems and writes it on the other list where the problem is written as others problem. Its always hard admitting a mistake and that makes it easily inclined to make it on others, So as to deal with it in a way that you dont have to resort to that pettiness of accepting a mistake of your own.

To own our problems and insecurities are the one of the biggest problems faced by most of the people.
In a situation where two individuals fight the easy way to shut the ego is to point out others or by blaming others in the direction of discrediting them in a way that you feel much better than the other because the ego is spoon feeded with envy and a superior feeling of unhealthy comfort which is fragile.
Like every people with great wisdom say that our life is about how we react to our problems. I would like to support that statement and if we have that intent to change ourselves to be better, we can make problems "the best thing" that happened to us. Yeah very optimistic right?
You may be thinking that who the hell are you to say all this pyschological stuff and shit. You may be also thinking " Is this guy always happy with his not so great philosophy?" Actually no, i am not.

Did i suffer that much to say all this ? That’s the next boring part you are going to read.
It’s not about how much we suffer (I know i boasted suffering as a blessing), I’ts about how much we observe and react to things in a way that everything becomes a lesson or a philosiphical thought to make someone understand just like i am trying to write this article to make myself and others (if one or more reads) to convey my thoughts on things like suffering and to be grateful for everything thats happening by being little optimisitic about life.
If we are ready to unlearn many things that is learned throughout our upbringing and from society which most of the time insists on herd mentality. If this mentality of following set of rules and regulations built over the years would make people happy, this world would have been a happy society. But what is it now? A society which is opaque, materialistic, divided, stereotypical behaviour, groupism and many more(These description of the society are not protrayed by the ‘society' ).
This had to be seen or experienced in life to understand all this bullshit that is happening around us. Some people in this paradox tends to believe a life like this is normal and suffering is just a part and parcel of life. We are here just to suffer and go. There is nothing to learn or seek from it. That should not be the case for our coming generations.
At first, I asked myself 'how will you know its a mistake?' or 'how to know that some of these things that you learned over the years was wrong?’.
Have you thought about it?
All these things were confusing thoughts came out of curiosity and it led me to the stage where i was running for answers to tell myself that couldnt be given by others. I was lucky enough to get exposed to many facts, books and individuals who had very different perspective when compared to mine.

“What you seek is seeking you" -rumi

I stated this quote because what you tend to seek will attract towards you and having the mindset to conflict your own thoughts can open up new doors to see the truth and knowledge that should have been known to all mankind. Instead of that people are taught to hate, envy, imitate and to live a life according to the societal infrastucture.

Everyone should try and follow curiosity to question yourself and your ideologies that can change your life to better or worse. You decide.

What matters most is how well you walk through the fire.” – Charles Bukowski

To be open minded has been a experience for me to learn more and i hope i could write out things more useful for people who read it till here and i love these kind of people who actually dont judge the book by its cover.

Thank you.